The other day Lyle's boss brought up the adoption-holiday topic. He tried to lay down some ground rules about when Lyle could take time off to go to Ethiopia, for how long yadda yadda yadda. All these things were originally cleared when Lyle had his interview back in November, but for some strange reason, the topic randomly came up this week. Lyle tried to explain to his boss that we don't have much control as to when we go. We get our referral when we get it. We wait for all things to be processed and then we're told when we go. Lyle's boss finished the conversation off with "you have more control than you are admitting".
Well, I received some very upsetting news today. Our friends that have been in a long-haul adoption through Uganda emailed some sad news. A huge hurdle they were able to get over completely was the financial side of things before going to Uganda. After their first adoption agency closed down and walked away with thousands of dollars, they were able to raise enough money to complete the adoption and get to Uganda to pick up their children. Since then, more hurdles arose.
They got over paperwork hurdles quite quickly in Uganda and then headed to Nairobi to finish things off. In Nairobi, things hit a wall. The mom has been there for two months and the dad is on his second trip to Africa, this time with their other kids too. Today, after having had their children in their arms for two months, and caring for their needs, including hospital and doctor visits for things like malaria etc. the Canadian officials have denied the visas for the kids to come to Canada. Tomorrow, the kids are being sent back to Uganda and in a few days the family will come back to Canada. It is hearbreaking. There is a possibility they can try again for these kids but ... it'd be another rough journey. For one, theyve already sold off their possessions, they've begged and borrowed money and are financially destitute.
This family needs prayer. They need provisions, and more importantly they all need healing. The parents and the children they already have, plus the two Ugandan children that were bonding with their new family and now have to be torn away from. I called them in Nairobi today, but really, no words can comfort the loss they feel right now.
I also called Lyle at work to share the news. I told him this is a perfect example of what to tell his boss. We really don't have control of much, if anything really. And, I do suppose this answers the question many people have asked as to why CAFAC's clients wait to travel to pick up their children from Ethiopia until ALL the paperwork is completed and approved. You just never know.
Well, I received some very upsetting news today. Our friends that have been in a long-haul adoption through Uganda emailed some sad news. A huge hurdle they were able to get over completely was the financial side of things before going to Uganda. After their first adoption agency closed down and walked away with thousands of dollars, they were able to raise enough money to complete the adoption and get to Uganda to pick up their children. Since then, more hurdles arose.
They got over paperwork hurdles quite quickly in Uganda and then headed to Nairobi to finish things off. In Nairobi, things hit a wall. The mom has been there for two months and the dad is on his second trip to Africa, this time with their other kids too. Today, after having had their children in their arms for two months, and caring for their needs, including hospital and doctor visits for things like malaria etc. the Canadian officials have denied the visas for the kids to come to Canada. Tomorrow, the kids are being sent back to Uganda and in a few days the family will come back to Canada. It is hearbreaking. There is a possibility they can try again for these kids but ... it'd be another rough journey. For one, theyve already sold off their possessions, they've begged and borrowed money and are financially destitute.
This family needs prayer. They need provisions, and more importantly they all need healing. The parents and the children they already have, plus the two Ugandan children that were bonding with their new family and now have to be torn away from. I called them in Nairobi today, but really, no words can comfort the loss they feel right now.
I also called Lyle at work to share the news. I told him this is a perfect example of what to tell his boss. We really don't have control of much, if anything really. And, I do suppose this answers the question many people have asked as to why CAFAC's clients wait to travel to pick up their children from Ethiopia until ALL the paperwork is completed and approved. You just never know.
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I read about this on their blog but didn't realize the visa's had been turned down. Is there any way they can fight it? Appeal the decision? I can not fathom how horrible this is for the family. I can not believe they got turned down. Why? How? My heart is breaking for them. I just can not comprehend it. We always think it will work out eventually. But you are right, we really do not have any control. How sad.
Oh my heart is breaking for them!
I check K's blog every day for news that the visa's have been issued and they are finally on their way home.
I can't imagine what they must be feeling...they have fought so hard for these children and then to be told no. The sadness and heartbreak must be beyond belief.
Tell Lyle's boss if he needs testimony about the lack of control we all have when adopting internationally there are a long line of us who can attest to the fact that he is admitting nothing but truth.
We sure know this after 20 months of waitng and still no referral.
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