We had our final homestudy appointment. It went by very well and much quicker than we expected. Our social worker is really a wonderful lady who we are indebted to. Her support has been valuable to this process. It is our plan to request that she perform our 3 month, 6 month and 12 month post-placement reports. This is a lady we hope will always be a part of our lives.
In continuing our CAFAC studies, we were reading about positive adoption language and came across something we'd like to share with all of you.
Birth parent, birth mother, birth father. These are terms used in describing the man and woman who conceived and gave birth to a child. All of us have birthparents, however, not all of us live in the custody of our birth parents.
Parent, mother father, mommy, daddy. These are terms used to describe the people who raise and nurture a child.
Real parent, Real mother, Real father, Real family. These are terms which imply that adoptive relationship are artificial and tentative.
Natural parent, Natural child. These terms imply we are less than whole or that our relationships are less important than relationships by birth.
One of your own. This term implies that genetic relationships are stronger and more enduring than adoptive relationships.
In continuing our CAFAC studies, we were reading about positive adoption language and came across something we'd like to share with all of you.
Examples of positive adoption language include:
Birth parent, birth mother, birth father. These are terms used in describing the man and woman who conceived and gave birth to a child. All of us have birthparents, however, not all of us live in the custody of our birth parents.
Parent, mother father, mommy, daddy. These are terms used to describe the people who raise and nurture a child.
Examples of negative adoption language include:
Real parent, Real mother, Real father, Real family. These are terms which imply that adoptive relationship are artificial and tentative.
Natural parent, Natural child. These terms imply we are less than whole or that our relationships are less important than relationships by birth.
One of your own. This term implies that genetic relationships are stronger and more enduring than adoptive relationships.
Four Adoption Terms Defined
Natural Child: any child who is not artificial
Real Parent: any parent who is not imaginary
Your Own Child: any child who is not someone else's child
Adopted child: a natural child, with a real parent, who is all my own
Natural Child: any child who is not artificial
Real Parent: any parent who is not imaginary
Your Own Child: any child who is not someone else's child
Adopted child: a natural child, with a real parent, who is all my own
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PS Happy Birthday Chris! March 11 can never be forgotten!
PS Happy Birthday Chris! March 11 can never be forgotten!
2 comments:
Hi guys! This vocabulary is really important. Too bad all parents don't get this much training in vocabulary to use with their children. I enjoy reading your blog updates, to hear about the challenges and successes with this exciting process in your lives. I'm waiting anxiously, I'm sure along with many others - not to mention you guys - to hear about and hopefully one day meet your child.
Wow very interesting and it shows the depth and subtleties that you guys will have to learn... and I suppose all of us as well :) I'll do my best to remember and apply!
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